Why do we ladies expect our husbands, or other half to read our minds? Is it because they're great mind readers? I believe majority of men would say they're not. In fact, majority of the time, they have no idea what's going on in our heads.
Here's a scenario: It's Friday night and you and your husband have an evening alone together. Your husband's been at work and you've been at home with the kids all day and all you want to do is have a nice evening together. Your husband suggests going out to dinner. So he asks you, "Honey, would you like to go out to dinner tonight?" You say, "That sounds like a great idea!"
"Where would you like to go eat?"
"Umm, it doesn't matter. Anywhere you like." At this point, you're already thinking your husband should know what you like. After all, he knows how much you wanted a nice fat juicy steak all week, doesn't he?
Your husband replies, "How about we go for some sushi." "Nah, I don't like sushi."
What? Didn't you just send your husband the message that 'it didn't matter', you would go 'anywhere he'd like'? Plus, didn't you just ask for sushi yesterday?
At this point, he has a puzzled look on his face. He doesn't know what to think or say. All he wanted to do, was have a nice night together, and let you choose what you wanted to eat. We wanted men to "automagically" know what we want by reading our minds. If he really loved and knew us, he would know what we wanted without us having to tell him.
You want them to show their love for you by knowing what you're thinking. They want to show their love for you, by doing whatever YOU want to do.
I just think it's so silly when we do this, yet I, myself am guilty of it every time. But, I'm learning that my husband, along with others of his kind, are very simple beings. They love you and they'll do whatever it takes to make us happy. The key is, WE have to open our mouths and say what we mean.
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I think you should read the book "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus"--the idea behing behavioral patterns in couples really stands out here.
I was married for twelve years, and now I am divorce. When I was married I did not want my husband to be a mind reader. What I did want my husband to know me and that means, he paid attention to my likes and dislike. He took charge of the situation, We should not have to tell him to plan a date, he should know how to do that. I wanted to be to ask what I wanted and then he made the decision based on that. I do not want a man that I have to tell him everything to do.
Your classmate,
Kathy
I think every men should be able to read his life partners mind or atleast have some sort of clue what the hell she means when she is talking to you. I have been in relationship over five years and I still feel like my future husband doesn't know me well. Most of the time when we argue it is only over the fact that he doesn't like to say sorry for what he did wrong. For the longest time in our relationship he was late for every single date we had like dinner, movies, outing with friends etc. And he still expected everything to be perfect without saying the word "sorry". Because according to him saying sorry takeaway men's respect and therefore he is not sorry. As far as I think just saying sorry can clean up alot of mess between two people and most of the time women really don't want their sorry but show that you care and you don't mean to upset each other.
I think men are little crazy and wierd when it comes to commonsense.
GoodLuck
I think we will be writing on probably same topics but different point of view.
Nausheen Ahmed
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